Domestic Abuse

Understanding Emotional Abuse and Domestic Violence

Emotional abuse in relationships is often overlooked, as it isn’t always immediately recognized as abuse. Yet, behaviors such as condescension, dismissal, aggression, or minimizing a partner’s experiences can create a toxic dynamic rooted in power and control. These patterns, while subtle, are harmful and can deeply impact a person’s emotional well-being.

Domestic violence—also known as intimate partner violence—affects people across all socioeconomic backgrounds and does not discriminate based on gender or sexual orientation. Its impact can be long-lasting, especially when combined with emotional or psychological abuse.

You may be asking yourself:

• Am I struggling with anxiety or depression related to my relationship?

• Have I been a victim of domestic violence?

• Did I witness domestic violence in my home growing up?

• Am I trying to rebuild my self-esteem after a difficult or abusive relationship?

• Do I feel guarded, unable to let others in?

• Is trauma from past abuse making it hard to connect with myself or others?

If any of these questions resonate with you, know that support is available. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to face it alone.

“Intimate partner violence is usually a maladaptive familial pattern that is passed down throughout generations due to the profound effects it has on family members and children exposed to the violence.  It is learned and can be un-learned. If you were a child exposed to domestic violence in your early development, you might be carrying the effects of this trauma alongside childhood unmet needs and wants.”

The Emotional Impact of Domestic Violence

Survivors of domestic violence often carry deep emotional wounds, including feelings of shame, guilt, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress. These effects can be long-lasting and affect every area of life, especially in the ability to form healthy relationships and assert personal boundaries.

Women, in particular, may struggle with self-assertion after abuse. Many have been socialized to prioritize the needs of others, often at the expense of their own well-being, dreams, and identity. Cultural expectations can make it difficult for women to focus on self-care and healing.

Similarly, men are often conditioned to suppress emotions, maintain a façade of toughness, and avoid vulnerability. This emotional repression can leave them ill-equipped to process trauma or seek help.

Both women and men are impacted by rigid gender roles that limit emotional expression and contribute to cycles of violence and disconnection. These constructs are not only unrealistic but harmful, reinforcing patterns that prevent healing and healthy relational dynamics.

“I can help you on your journey to move forward, break the cycle of abuse of self and others, find understanding in being vulnerable, and empower you to be who you are at your essence, your innermost peaceful nature.”